Snowmobilers don't get lost, they just take detours.

I love this country and everything that it has to offer – in all seasons.  Every winter for the past 6 years, my husband and I have been on a week-long snowmobile trip.   

As we get ready for this trip, we carefully pack our one bag, ensuring we have everything we'll need for the duration of the trip, we plan our daily distances, determine where we'll refuel the sled and where we'll refuel the bodies, reserve our lodging, let family know where we'll be....  By the time we leave for our annual trek, we feel fully prepared.   

We leave with confidence and yet, every year, some unforeseen incident has us adjust one or many aspects of our trip.  Like the year where we were crossing a river and suddenly became aware of open water less than 200 feet away.  Needless to say that we quickly turned around.  This is where we realized that there will always be some things that we can't control – whether it's closed trails, other people's decisions, harsh weather or our own reactions to unplanned events.  

And once we get home, no matter what happened, we always feel that the trip was successful, not in spite of, but probably because of the many detours we have taken.  

In your own life, what detours have you taken?  

How do you react when faced with unforeseen events?  

Contact me if you want to learn to see the gift in these detours.  

Une nouvelle année, de nouveaux débuts?

Il y a déjà quelques jours qu'on a tourné une autre page du calendrier.  Certains disent au revoir à l'année qui vient de se terminer avec regret alors que certains voient la nouvelle année arriver avec joie.  

Et si, au lieu de regretter cette année passée, on en profitait pour faire un bilan de tout ce qu'on a vécu?  Les aventures, les rêves, les réalisations, bien sûr!  Mais aussi les défis et les obstacles.  On fait le point sur l'année, non seulement pour bien mesurer le cheminement de celle qui se termine, mais également pour créer celle à venir. 

Imaginez que vous avez le pouvoir de créer votre environnement de rêve. 

Comment vous sentirez-vous lorsque vous vivrez dans cet environnement? 

Il me ferait plaisir de vous accompagner dans cette aventure.  Communiquez avec moi pour voir comment on peut façonner votre avenir ensemble.

Is this the end of the road?

As 2017 comes to an end, I reflect on what this past year has brought my way – the challenges and the successes; the endings and the new beginnings; the opportunities sent my way – both those I chose to accept and those I either didn't see or chose not to acknowledge.   

Is it time to say "out with the old"?  and if I do say that and take action, what will replace that which I willingly give up?  Whenever something is removed from our lives, the universe sees to it that it is replaced by something else. 

What am I able to envision for myself in the future?  What do I see on the horizon? 

What concrete action am I willing to take RIGHT NOW to start moving in that direction? 

Reflections

Going through a large chain store the other day, I came across a whole wall of mirrors. Have you ever stood in front of all these mirrors and observed what was happening? 

Isn't it interesting the way things are being reflected? Things appear different whether we stand directly in front of the mirror or to the side. The lighting also affects what we see and our attention will easily be drawn to what is moving.  

When you look into the mirror of your life, what do you see being reflected back? To what extent is that reflection the reality of what you want to see and to what extent is it real?  

How are things distorted by others perception? What about by what is happening around you?  

I invite you to take a few minutes today and take a good look in the mirror – no distractions, no judgment – what do you see?  

Stepping out of your comfort zone

October 31st – Hallowe'en.  As I walked around today I noticed many people wearing unusual attire.  Some in full costume and others wearing small items, a simple nod to the day.  Like they are saying " I know it's October 31st, and I want to celebrate, and at the same time, I don't want to stand out too much."   

I'm wondering what is motivating those who are fully decked out.  Are they using this opportunity to really showcase who they feel they are? Are they using it to step out of their comfort zone? To push their own boundaries in a safe and acceptable environment? 

What makes up your own comfort zone? 

What would it feel like to challenge these boundaries?  What's on the other side? 

Difficult Conversations

Have you ever had to have a difficult conversation with someone you cared for deeply?  I'm talking about the kind of conversation that no one ever really looks forward to; the kind of conversation that has the power to change the relationship completely; the kind of conversation you don't know how to start and yet you feel must happen eventually if things are to change.   

There are many books, lectures and talks on how to do this effectively while keeping as much emotion out of the equation – be as brief and as factual as possible, plan ahead of time, use the recommended steps, use the recommended templates, sandwich the difficult partbetween two easy parts, and on and on.  Each method brings with it its own advantages and in the end, you are still the one who must have that talk.  No one else can do it for you. You have to be the courageous one.  

Now imagine if that conversation were to be with yourself.   

What would the topic be?   What would that be like?  

How would you be kind to yourself?  What resources do you need at this point in your life? 

Find the courage to have those conversations! 

Are you running to or running from?

Every few years, I have this urge to change jobs.  It's time to try something new, to be challenged in a different way.  I start dreaming of working with new people, of a new environment.   

Recently however, I've started reflecting on what is motivating this need for change.  Is it really because I need a new challenge or is it because I feel like I've done everything I was hired to do or is it because I'm afraid of getting bored?  Am I trying to pre-empt something? 

Talking about this to a mentor, he asked me if I was running away from something or if I was running towards something?  This question took me by surprise because I'd never really given it any thought.  I'd always seen myself as somewhat of a free spirit, letting life chose where needed to be and trusting that whatever happened was the right thing.   What if I make a mistake?  The fact that I actually chose a path means that I now have to take responsibility for my decisions. 

What decision are you really making by not making a decision?  Are you running from something or are you running towards something? 

By making that choice, what are you settling for? 

A Unique Operating System 

 

Have you ever asked yourself why something keeps happening to you?  Why you find yourself in the same situation over and over again in spite of wishing things were different?  In spite of feeling like you are taking different actions? 

We all have, deep within us, values and beliefs that accompany us through life.  Even when we aren't aware of it, these values and beliefs guide our actions, inactions and decisions.  It's a unique operating system that helps each of us navigate through life.  And every now and then, the system crashes and we need to reboot it.  Once restarted, everything seems to work for a while until something happens and it crashes again.  Too often, we feel that we have no control over what has happened, that the decisions aren't ours to make.  We are at the mercy of life.   

Now, imagine the possibilities if you had full control of that operating system.  What if you could modify what was running beneath your actions, inactions, decisions and indecisions? 

What belief do you currently hold surrounding your situation in life? 

How would you live your life differently if you knew what those hidden beliefs were and you were able to change them and reach your goals?  

Curious about what beliefs are hiding beneath the surface and the possibilities that are waiting for you? Just send me an email and we'll explore together. 

Looking in the rear view mirror 

 

Have you ever heard the expression "Don't look back, that's not where you're going"? 

Recently, a client was rehashing a situation that we had been talking about for a few sessions. She was retelling the same story that she had  - different details and same outcome.  She was convinced that things would never change.  "No matter what I do, I'm always right back where I started.  The same thing just keeps happening to me.  I just don't understand."   

She needed to take a step back and become an objective observer of the situation.  This allowed her to see things through a new lens and to consider new actions that she is willing to take. 

In your own life, if you're not where you want to be, what will it take to get there? 

What are you agreeing to by not moving forward? 

How will it feel when you take that first step, and what about the second step?

Flying away from the nest.

 

Have you ever noticed how baby birds are encouraged to fly off on their own? Last night, I was watching how mama and papa bird were pushing their little offspring off into the great blue yonder.

First, they fly around the nest, showing the young one how it's done. When the baby doesn't follow, mama or papa starts squawking loudly to get the baby moving. Finally, they know they need to get that baby moving, its existence depends on it, so one of the parents just pushes the baby out of the nest. No discussion, no negotiation, no second chances - and the baby FLIES. The parents stay with the young bird for a while and eventually, it has enough experience and confidence that it flies off on its own.

Any change is uncomfortable at first. And every now and then, we all need someone to show us how it's done and to give us that friendly push out of the nest.

Where in your own life do you need that support?

Contact me and we can discuss how I can be of service.